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Music & Lyrics

I’ve been watching but the stars refuse to shine,
I’ve been searching but I just don’t see the signs,
I know that it’s out there,
There’s gotta be something for my soul somewhere!

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Posted by on April 30, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

Happy Endings

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We are not from Disneyland but we wish for a happy ending for our lives. Most of the time, we seek it from watching romantic movies or tv series. Few days ago, there was an internet rage about the HIMYM finale. I agree I was one among them to be indignant. Why? We wait for 9 years to see Ted’s lover and bam you taint the ending by making her diseased and Ted going back to rekindle with Robin? I know it’s just a TV show but more than 90% of the fans didn’t like the ending and it was the most controversial finale that has been debated upon. It didn’t feel right. Ted is supposed to stay with the love of his life and Robin isn’t the one. Anyone who watched the show knows that.

So why did we react? Why can’t we accept fiction with a dreary end? It’s a no brainer. Because we all yen the right kind of happy ending, especially from an anticipated fiction whether it’s a book or tv or a film. They reflect our heart’s desire. We yearn for happy endings. We are genetically driven for love and belonging and completion. Not so long ago, an adorable Boston couple celebrated their love of 61 years with an “up” themed photo-shoot that spread all over the internet. These stories inspire us, they temporarily fill that void for us, and they give us hope. It’s not just a true love’s kiss or a blissful dream wedding & a happily ever after. We quest for things to be alright in the end.

In real life, happy ending within reason refers to reaching certain standard goals, like to get your dream job, find the love of your life, have kids and grow old together watching your grand kids graduate. While we do that, we stay through the thick & thin we go through as a family. So what about the rest of us who dint get these done yet? Like a very popular notion “If it’s not happy, it’s not an ending”. Sometimes we need to wait longer than we might think. By that I don’t just mean to find love but also in other things like upgrading your position in your job, doing things you haven’t done before, taking care of people you love (like your parents). To put all this in one sentence “to live life to the fullest”.

Is it possible not to have a happy ending? There is a popular internet meme called “forever alone”. Nobody is forever alone, the planet has 7 billion people. I feel sorry for people who could do things for themselves but never try to. They wallow in self-pity that they never saw/see/will see when good happens to them.

Life ends only with death, so you have a life time to prepare for your happy ending. Just believe. It won’t be the same for all of us but we will have our own stories. 🙂 

 

All’s well that ends well – Shakespeare

 
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Posted by on April 15, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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Mirror has two faces

I like watching the vintage Hollywood or Bollywood or Tollywood (Telugu, my mother tongue). They make a lot more sense than the stories we have now-a-days. I came across this beautiful story “the mirror has two faces” and decided to watch the movie. I am fascinated by jeff bridges’ character.

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Here is my favorite lines from the script, that is a must read:

As I stood at the altar beside my sister and her husband to be, it struck me that this ritual, called wedding ceremony, is really just the final scene of a fairy tale…

They never tell you what happens after…

They never tell you that Cinderella drove the Prince crazy with her obsessive need to clean the castle, cause she missed her day job, right?

They don’t tell us what happens after because there is no after…

The be-all and end-all of romantic love was…?

Sex…?

Marriage…?

But it wasn’t always like that!

Around the 12th century there was a notion known as ”courtly love”, where love had nothing to do with marriage and nothing to do with sex…

In most cases it was defined as a passionate relationship between a knight and a lady of the court who was already married, and so they could never consummate their love… In this way they would have to rise above… your ordinary… you know… “going to the bathroom in front of each other” kind of love…

They would go after something more divine…

They took sex out of the equation, and what was left was a union of souls…

Clinical experts, scholars and my Aunt Esther are united in the belief that true love has spiritual dimensions, while romantic love is nothing but a lie… an illusion… a modern myth… a soulless manipulation…

And speaking of manipulation … it’s like going to the movies and we see the lovers on screen kiss, and the music swells, and we buy it, right? So, when my date takes me home and kisses me good night, if I don’t hear the philharmonic in my head, I dump him!

Now the question is; why do we buy it?

We buy it because whether it is a myth or a manipulation, let’s face it… we all want to fall in love… Right?

Why…?

Because that experience makes us feel completely alive…

Where every sense is heightened…

Every emotion is magnified…

Our everyday reality is shattered, and we are flung into the heavens….

It may only last a moment, an hour, an afternoon… but that doesn’t diminish its value… Because we’re left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives…

I read an article a while ago that said, “When we fall in love, we hear Puccini in our heads”… I love that… I think it’s because his music fully expresses our longing for passion in our lives and romantic love…

And while we are listening to La Bóheme or Turandot, or reading Wuthering Heights, or watching Casablanca… a little bit of that love lives in us too…

So the final question is: Why do people want to fall in love when it has such a short shelf life and can be devastatingly painful?

Propagation of the species…?

Psychologically we need to connect with somebody…?

Are we culturally preconditioned…?

Good answers, but much too intellectual for me…

I think it’s because, as some of you may already know…
While it does last, it feels really great…thats why…

 
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Posted by on April 13, 2014 in literature

 

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The bucket list

This movie has changed my life (by changing my perception). I kept impossible goals and I made them possible. I still have to succeed in my career and I have faith I will, meanwhile I will make time for adventure. Most importantly, find the joy in your life. 🙂

 
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Posted by on April 9, 2014 in Uncategorized