We are not from Disneyland but we wish for a happy ending for our lives. Most of the time, we seek it from watching romantic movies or tv series. Few days ago, there was an internet rage about the HIMYM finale. I agree I was one among them to be indignant. Why? We wait for 9 years to see Ted’s lover and bam you taint the ending by making her diseased and Ted going back to rekindle with Robin? I know it’s just a TV show but more than 90% of the fans didn’t like the ending and it was the most controversial finale that has been debated upon. It didn’t feel right. Ted is supposed to stay with the love of his life and Robin isn’t the one. Anyone who watched the show knows that.
So why did we react? Why can’t we accept fiction with a dreary end? It’s a no brainer. Because we all yen the right kind of happy ending, especially from an anticipated fiction whether it’s a book or tv or a film. They reflect our heart’s desire. We yearn for happy endings. We are genetically driven for love and belonging and completion. Not so long ago, an adorable Boston couple celebrated their love of 61 years with an “up” themed photo-shoot that spread all over the internet. These stories inspire us, they temporarily fill that void for us, and they give us hope. It’s not just a true love’s kiss or a blissful dream wedding & a happily ever after. We quest for things to be alright in the end.
In real life, happy ending within reason refers to reaching certain standard goals, like to get your dream job, find the love of your life, have kids and grow old together watching your grand kids graduate. While we do that, we stay through the thick & thin we go through as a family. So what about the rest of us who dint get these done yet? Like a very popular notion “If it’s not happy, it’s not an ending”. Sometimes we need to wait longer than we might think. By that I don’t just mean to find love but also in other things like upgrading your position in your job, doing things you haven’t done before, taking care of people you love (like your parents). To put all this in one sentence “to live life to the fullest”.
Is it possible not to have a happy ending? There is a popular internet meme called “forever alone”. Nobody is forever alone, the planet has 7 billion people. I feel sorry for people who could do things for themselves but never try to. They wallow in self-pity that they never saw/see/will see when good happens to them.
Life ends only with death, so you have a life time to prepare for your happy ending. Just believe. It won’t be the same for all of us but we will have our own stories. 🙂
All’s well that ends well – Shakespeare