What is your happy place? 😊 If anyone asks you that question what comes to your mind? Just having this thought gives me a good feeling ❤️. There is peace within. My happy place is the one at “dahican beach”. When I visited the place alone, I was fortunate enough to blend in with some Europeans who came for a visit as well as the amazingly hospitable locals. There was the beach, the starlit sky, the guitar one of the locals played and the bonafire. Some folks danced. I remember walking to the farther end of the beach listening to music watching the starlit sky. I fell asleep listening to the waves. The whole experience is idyllic. My happy place is this stupendous reality that looks like a prodigious fantasy.
2014 was indecorous, hectic but on the bright side I got a new job. I had a fun and productive year, had one of the best New Year’s Eve, though I missed my family. Cheers to the good and the bad. Even though I can’t pride talk my life right now. I love the fact how God looks after me each year. I am grateful for everything that happened and things that dint work out. All good memories will be remembered. 😊
“Aimer, ce n’est pas se regarder l’un l’autre, c’est regarder ensemble dans la même direction. “😇 ❤️
Which means love doesn’t mean gazing at each other but it’s looking together in the same direction.
When you look at all the wrong places, your inner peace is dismantled. Because infatuation is an illusion, you’re blinded by it and in fact become a whole lot of other person who is neurotic, obsessed and weak.
I am old fashioned enough to believe
in destiny. I love me more than anything. I haven’t met a person who would change that. That doesn’t make me wanna crave for it. If there is one thing I’ve learned lately is to not allow something to rummage your inner sanctum. After all isn’t love all about balance? I am always willing to wait for my true love who would see the world through my eyes. Until then, it’s not the end of the world. 😇
“STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES BUT WORDS WILL NEVER HURT ME.” Or will they?
Same areas of the brain get activated when we experience social rejection, the betrayal of a loved one or when we spill hot coffee on our arm. In other words, emotional pain hurts the same as physical pain. Science has developed drugs to alleviate or eliminate our physical pain and some of those same drugs are now proving helpful in eliminating our emotional pain. So the prescription for broken heart might actually be – take 2 Tylenol and call me in the morning? But is numbing our pain always a good thing? The more we know pain in all its varying flavours, the more we can appreciate the sensations and feelings that we like, it’s the nature of contrast. If we never felt bitterness or anger, then we wouldn’t deeply appreciate our happiness. And if we never knew fear, then we couldn’t admire courage. So may be to fully enjoy the beauty in our lives, we must first acknowledge and embrace our pain.
The above lines are from the recent episode of Perception (302 painless). I couldn’t agree more.
When people feel emotional pain, the same areas of the brain get activated as when people feel physical pain: the anterior insula and the anterior cingulate cortex. Studies have shown, acetaminophen taken during acute phases of broken heart or rejection, has lowered the activation in the anterior insula and the anterior cingulate cortex, thus alleviating our emotional pain.
Obviously popping pills isn’t a long term cure for every time we get hurt. Ever observed when a child falls while playing, they cry. But when they fall several times, the pain mitigates; they learn to get up and deal with it. Same goes with any ghastly setbacks that happen in our everyday life. Everybody experiences emotional pain differently depending on disparate situations but we all have a choice to let it go. So why not do it with some awareness and self compassion. Embracing or accepting our pain with mindful awareness, makes us stronger individuals as we become to endure it. When the same experience happens again, its not so painful anymore. We are hardwired to be resilient. We suffer, we accustom. The span of our resilience shortens with every negative experience. Nothing lasts forever.
Remember to wade through the pain, do not dwell in it. 🙂
I’ve been watching but the stars refuse to shine,
I’ve been searching but I just don’t see the signs,
I know that it’s out there,
There’s gotta be something for my soul somewhere!
We are not from Disneyland but we wish for a happy ending for our lives. Most of the time, we seek it from watching romantic movies or tv series. Few days ago, there was an internet rage about the HIMYM finale. I agree I was one among them to be indignant. Why? We wait for 9 years to see Ted’s lover and bam you taint the ending by making her diseased and Ted going back to rekindle with Robin? I know it’s just a TV show but more than 90% of the fans didn’t like the ending and it was the most controversial finale that has been debated upon. It didn’t feel right. Ted is supposed to stay with the love of his life and Robin isn’t the one. Anyone who watched the show knows that.
So why did we react? Why can’t we accept fiction with a dreary end? It’s a no brainer. Because we all yen the right kind of happy ending, especially from an anticipated fiction whether it’s a book or tv or a film. They reflect our heart’s desire. We yearn for happy endings. We are genetically driven for love and belonging and completion. Not so long ago, an adorable Boston couple celebrated their love of 61 years with an “up” themed photo-shoot that spread all over the internet. These stories inspire us, they temporarily fill that void for us, and they give us hope. It’s not just a true love’s kiss or a blissful dream wedding & a happily ever after. We quest for things to be alright in the end.
In real life, happy ending within reason refers to reaching certain standard goals, like to get your dream job, find the love of your life, have kids and grow old together watching your grand kids graduate. While we do that, we stay through the thick & thin we go through as a family. So what about the rest of us who dint get these done yet? Like a very popular notion “If it’s not happy, it’s not an ending”. Sometimes we need to wait longer than we might think. By that I don’t just mean to find love but also in other things like upgrading your position in your job, doing things you haven’t done before, taking care of people you love (like your parents). To put all this in one sentence “to live life to the fullest”.
Is it possible not to have a happy ending? There is a popular internet meme called “forever alone”. Nobody is forever alone, the planet has 7 billion people. I feel sorry for people who could do things for themselves but never try to. They wallow in self-pity that they never saw/see/will see when good happens to them.
Life ends only with death, so you have a life time to prepare for your happy ending. Just believe. It won’t be the same for all of us but we will have our own stories. 🙂
All’s well that ends well – Shakespeare